About Us

In military terms, a deliberate engagement is one in which an army takes the battle to the enemy; it is an offensive engagement in which the initiator decides the means and extent of the engagement, rather than allowing the enemy to dictate to them.

We’re in a Deliberate Engagement against the Culture of Death. For too long, good Christian people have allowed the enemies of our culture and of souls to dictate to us how we shall accept, in the names of being nice, of tolerance, of compassion, rank evils which are, in fact, destroying our culture. Consequently, Western Civilization — formerly known as Christendom — has become a haven where roughly one in three pregnancies end in abortion, marriage is at an all-time low and divorce at an all-time high, where violence dogs our daily lives, and the politics of sexual deviance take precedence over traditional values and the protection of women and children.

This must stop.  And the only way to combat the rapidly-accelerating destructive trends is for the same good Christian people to rise up and to cry “No more!”

This blog was founded on the eve of 2009, when deep concern over FOCA – the Freedom of Choice Act – legislation which would have reversed all abortion restrictions then-existing at State and Federal Levels, drove us to our knees and to our computers, participating in discussions, promoting information that was as honest, accurate and heart-felt as we could make it. This blog was intended to be a clearing-house of sorts – of the information we found, the issues we encountered, and the responses of those who care. Though FOCA was relegated to the dung heap of national politics, the controversy surrounding abortion, euthanasia, “assisted suicide,”  increasing sexual license and gay rights, and a general contempt for life evidenced by increased public and private violence — The Culture of Death — continue to challenge us, daily.

This blog was begun by two friends:  Laura Lowder writes primarily in her website, Surviving the Rainbow, about her experiences as a woman formerly married to a man living with Same-Sex Attraction and active now in the gay lifestyle. This battle against the Culture of Death is not an abstract for her; she has lived first-hand in its effects. Matt is a father and teacher who more recently is taking a back seat on this blog to go back to school and to live responsibly with his expanded family, but he is still very much a part of this work, and his vision in initiating it is felt on every page and post. We are adding contributions from other friends who are also engaged in combating the Culture of Death.

Laura and Matt are Catholic Christians who are in reverent awe of the Church’s holy wisdom.  Some of the contributors to this work are Protestant Christians. As we’ve said in our posts, these issues are moral and societal ones that stand by themselves apart from philosophical and religious affiliation.  One of the reasons we as a culture have been driven so deeply back by the enemy’s aggressions is that we have been unwilling to cooperate with one another in this war.  Those divisions must cease if we are going to make a difference in the world.  Had Catholics and Protestants not been so distrustful of one another, in the 1970s, we could have very promptly overturned Roe v. Wade, which legalized all abortion on demand without substantial restriction; and very likely other issues might never have gained a toehold on our culture.

We’ve drawn on the ethical and human rights teachings of our Church to provide the foundation we work from – the language we use to express the injustices of abortion and the dangers of homosexual acts.  If you’re not Catholic, or even if you are Catholic, you may not be familiar with the Church’s teachings that we barely hint at here. These teachings also provide the foundations for most of Protestantism, as well. By all means contact us for any ideas or questions you have.  Feel free to surf through the reference materials and sites that we have so freely drawn on. They’re in the Resources tab at the top of the page. We’ve tried really hard to be thorough but we are not theologians; therefore we do not presume to speak for the Church.

If you disagree with us on an interpretation, please, in all charity forgive us and contact us if you feel it’s necessary.  If you see a specific error or an incorrect reference or citation please contact us and tell us what the right data is and where we can go to find it. Our email address is at the bottom of the page.

Finally, if you’re so moved you can send money; just don’t send it to us.  We don’t have any need except the DSL/cable modem fees and we each pay that anyway.  Instead, pick a worthwhile local charity that helps moms in difficult pregnancies. Look for CareNet or Birthright in your area, or just check your local yellow pages under Abortion Alternatives.  If one is not local try http://www.thematernityhome.org in Georgetown, TX or http://www.momshouse.org in Johnstown, PA. Or you can donate to Courage, Joel 225, Desert Streams, or another ministry that helps people leaving the gay lifestyle and choosing chastity for the sake of Christian discipleship.  Then don’t just send them your money; see what you can do on a more personal level.  You’ll benefit in so many ways you’ll forget that you’re there to help them.

Please remember us and all who are engaged on the front lines in the fight against the Culture of Death during your regular daily prayers. Our email address is deliberateengagement@gmail.com

Updated by Laura on February 16, 2018

8 Responses to About Us

  1. Ed says:

    Nice website. Hope it progresses beyond the blogosphere.

    The direction of this site is encouraging, and these objectives CAN be attained. In the words of Marshal Fosh, the French military leader in WWI: “The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire. ”

    We need to set afire souls for the purpose of curbing (if not outright avoiding) this coming slaughter.

  2. Matt says:


    Thank you very much. I agree with the good general.

    If you have any specific comments or links send them. Especially if you spot something that undermines the argument. I have an ego but will use the comment to shape the product. Even simple things like font size and layout.

    On a lighter note I have to laugh. The term French military leader put me in mind of a “stunt”. At Google search French Military Victories and click I’m feeling Lucky. 🙂

  3. Ed says:

    French Military Victories is a 20th-Century oxymoron. Prior to the era of Soldier of Surrender magazine (http://politicalhumor.about.com/library/images/blpic-frenchmagazine.htm), the French were quite accomplished in matters militaire. (Maybe we should work on a way to embed that address; see my website, blog).

    Napoleon was no shrinking violet.

    But then, why am I defending les français? Je don’t aime them. Much, anyway.

  4. Matt says:

    to TT,
    No I reject that kind of rude language AND its very clear disrespect for the reader.

  5. TT says:

    I realized that you weren’t that poster and I came to apologize for my (honest) mistake.

  6. Matt says:

    Thank you for your apology TT. Despite our disagreement, we can agree to be respectful and to deliberately address our differences on this important issue.

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